About the book

My vision for this book was to create something visually and poetically lovely, as well as being helpful emotionally and practically to the bereaved. While taking a sabbatical leave from my position as a Pastoral counsellor, I went to my favourite secluded bolt-hole on Rakino Island, in the Hauraki Gulf. There I found the profound quiet and long days a wonderful environment in which to compile excerpts from my own journals, find inspirational quotes, and weave it all together in what is my first publication. I hope you find it both helpful and inspiring.


About the Author

Sheryl is a counsellor who works in a Pastoral Care team in a church called LIFE, where she is privileged to be a listening ear and helper to many people facing various life trials. 

Sheryl was born in Te Kopuru, Dargaville and lived in Whangarei from the age of 5 for many years. Sheryl and her husband Kevin lived in Papua New Guinea for 3 years but returned to Whangarei where they created manufacturing and retail businesses, in which they often worked together. Sheryl supported her mum after the loss of her husband, Sheryl's dad, to liver cancer. She looked after her mother at home while she was terminally ill. Not long after her mother passed away, her husband Kevin was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumour, he lost his battle with this disease 19 months later. Two years after losing her husband she moved to Auckland to complete her studies and construct a new life. Subsequently her only sibling and brother Lyndsay died after a short battle with bowel and liver cancer. Tragically her dear friend Liz passed away from the same disease not long after that.
In the past few years she fell in love with Rob and they have just celebrated their second wedding anniversary. She has three grown up children, who have brought wonderful son and daughter-in-laws into her life and consequently three gorgeous grandchildren (so far!).
Sheryl and Rob are always busy working on various projects, including doing up an old holiday home on Rakino Island. They live with their Tonkinese cat George, and are blessed with many good friends and family.


Sheryl Garden


Published by Sheryl Garden, 2018.

I am deeply grateful to the following people: Alesha Garden who so thoughtfully interpreted what I wrote and beautifully created the design and layout.

Rory Garden and Nick Simpkin for letting me use their wonderful photography. Rory’s images are on pages 04, 17, 20, 34 and Nick’s images are on pages 09, 26 and 38.

Jahnea Lowe, Pauline Lowe and Jenny Wheeler for their edits and encouragement.

Robert Dryfhout for championing my efforts and loving me unreservedly.

Pastor Paul de Jong for permission to use his superb quote.

The CS Lewis Company Ltd for it’s generous permission to quote from the work of CS Lewis: A GRIEF OBSERVED by CS Lewis © copyright CS Lewis Pte Ltd 1961.

Some content taken from Hinds’ Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard. © copyright 1975. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.

Scripture Quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, © copyright 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

Scripture Quotations marked (NLV) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Life Version, Copyright © 1969 by Christian Literature International.

All other images and quotes are used within permission guidelines.

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